Mysterious girl, from a yappy girl

 Hi sugars !!

Soooo, what are your thougths on the whole mysterious attitude trend going on ? 🙊

I know it's no news, it's been going on for a while, but I've been thinking about it lately. 

A random guy from college, who I was getting to know, during class told me after three hours spent together that I was mysterious...And surprinsigly I didn't like that. I felt an instant distance between him and I. 

Usually I'm the yappy girl, the one that overshares, that has so much energy and laughs all the time. Sunshine is litteraly my nickname ☀️! But, on the other hand, my big sister, who's two years older, was always the mysterious one, always affiliated to the moon 🌙. Very quite, distinguish, put together. 

And I always felt too much next to her, too open, and for years I tried to be like her. I tried to shut myself, to say less, laugh less, be a little less, so that I could be the cool mysterious girl, like in the movies. 

Elena Gilbert from the vampire diraries 🦇, I'm sure you're familiar with, has this thing going on about her. Or maybe most main characters in shows do ? You know the thing, that makes her interesting because she doesn't give you enough to understand her but enough to get some clues. And you turn into Sherlock Holmes trying to fit the pieces together, like she is some kind of puzzle to solve. Well, that is who I always wanted to be. 

Now, let's go back to this interaction I had with this guy. I hated the feeling I had when he told me this. Which made me understand something. 

Being open and vulnerable is the best way to give people access to yourself. If you restrain yourself to fit a mold, not only is it going to be visible but it's also making you distant. And I would understand that as human beings we need connections, we need the warmth of being close to people. 

And I believe that this whole thing about being distant, "nonchalant", giving less to people is the best way to ruin human connections. It's the best way to be litteraly distant from other people. 

So my take is, stop trying to be someone you're not (obviously) but also stop trying to be less. It's by giving, that people will give you back, and it's by being open that you'll feel free. Not only in your relationships but also because being true to yourself is so liberating. So while I'm not telling you it's easy to be yourself and open, I vividly encourage you to be more. Always. 

                       (Fran is my litteral Icon 💗💗) 

To little me, No, it's not cool being distant, or being someone else. Being nonchalant and mysterious can cause you to feel detached from other people. Don't lose the warmth of your relationships to be cool and cold. It's not worth it. And to all my Sugars, take this advice, you deserve to feel intimate connections, and to be free xxx

Cheers, 

Nana 💖

PS: No shade to the examples I took, I litteraly love all of them !!

The vagus nerve in stress regulation

Hi sugars,

As a lot of people I'm sure, I'm an anxious ball, so how about sharing the things I've learned about stress reduction ? 

I've recently learned a lot about the vagus nerve. It's the longest cranial nerve in the body running from the brainstem to the heart, lungs, and digestive tract. It is a major part of the parasympathetic nervous system, often called the "rest and digest" system. When activated, it helps slow the heart rate and promotes relaxation.

Therefore its stimulation can help reduce stress. Here is a few ways to do it : 

 - Cold water on the face 

It triggers the mammalian dive reflex, (a natural response that increases vagal activity) and slows the heart rate.

 - Ear (tragus) massage 

Part of the vagus nerve connects to the outer ear, which could explain why you have tinnitus (ringing/ buzzing in the ears) during period of stress!!

 - Humming 

The vagus nerve is connected to the muscles invovled in vocalization. Humming helps stimulate vagal activity.  

 - Gargling with water 

Because the vagus nerve helps control muscles in the throat, gargling may provide gentle stimulation.

-  Diaphragmatic breathing

Slow, deep breathing is one of the easiest ways to activate the parasympathetic nervous system and encourage a calmer state.

So try it out my sugars, and let me know ! 

Xoxo, 

Nana 💖

Introduction

Hello everyone !! 💋

I'm so excited to start this blog, and share so much with you, but first, let me introduce myself. 

I'm Nana, I'm 23 years old, and a french aquarius♒✨. I live in France, have two sisters, two dogs and many plants. I'm the middle child.... Yes, I know 😒, I'm the turbulent, kind of chaotic but super funny sister ;). Which meaaaans, I have so many fun stories to share. 

Also, big deal 🚨. I'm extra creative : 

Let's seeeee, I sing (since I'm 11 years old 🎤), I play the piano, guitar 🎶but I also, draw, paint🎨, have tried sculpture (I'm not too bad at it lol), and recently have been loviiiing oil pastels !!! In conclusion I also have many art pieces and creative things to share with you. 

I have no sense of filter whatsoever, so I'll be oversharing much. Fuuun. 🎉

I believe that everyone should be free to be themselves and absolutely love ANYone, so yes, you are absolutely safe with me 💖. It's a no judgement zone ❌.

So buckle up, you're in for a fun drive 🚗🌟

Cheers x

The Fab, Nana💫